Sex Secret

I don't think women do this, but I could be wrong. Women hardly ever invite me to eavesdrop on their conversations about sex. Dammit. Some men do this, however, and it's them I would like to discuss today. You women can listen in, I don't mind. There are two versions of this practice that break…

What the Neighbors Think

I suspect there are more of us out there than we might expect who grew up with parents who had one level or another of preoccupation with what the neighbors might think. There are any number of reasons that happens. None of them are legitimate. Whatever the real reason for neighborly preoccupation was - narcissism,…

Who Are We to Be?

I confess that, watching the political discourse over the last few years I have become increasingly discouraged. I have watched American politics, not as an obsession but as a citizen interested in public discourse, since the late Johnson administration. To my more smart assed younger friends, I should specify that I mean the Lyndon, and…

What We Are Missing

It seems to me that we have lost sight of a basic ethical principal. I would state that principal as follows: An action is right or wrong independent of the impact of that action on me. Stated another, perhaps less gentle, way no one of us is the center of the ethical universe. Indulge me…

Truth

Truth is not a matter of opinion. Truth is fact, and it remains the same even if someone pays you to lie and pretend that your lie is the truth. Lobbyists are liars. Spokespeople who try to spin reality to make the companies or causes they work for look better are liars. Being a liar…

Honesty is Such a Lonely Word

Billy Joel was right, not only about love but also about spiritual and religious circles - though he may not have had that in mind when he wrote his song. There is a practice that I have seen both in Newage* circles and in Evangelical circles of blatant dishonesty about the ideas and even the…

Religion is not Truth

One name for God might be Truth, with a capital "T." Some people are mightily turned off by the term God, through no fault of their own and no fault of God's. Rather, they are turned off by the term God because of the behavior of those who claim to have discovered Truth through their…

Discarding What’s Not True

Most of us, I would even venture to say all of us, have been told things about ourselves that are not true. Sometimes we were told these things due to an honest mistake. Other times people wanted to manipulate us or to get their way. Some of us have encountered evil personified, a person wanting…