Guns, Schools, and Selfishness

At a certain developmental stage, young children are appropriately concerned only about themselves and what they want. At that stage, that behavior is appropriate and we would be wrong (and ineffective) if we tried to hurry them out of that stage. We would interfere with their normal, healthy development, and they would suffer consequences at…

Not My Stuff

I frequently encounter situations where someone has taken on the developmental or recovery work of a friend or loved one. They mean well, and they want to help their loved one in their process, but somewhere along the way a line gets crossed and their efforts turn from helping the individual in question to hurting…

Trauma and A Bridge Too Far

A Bridge Too Far is a World War II movie about an Allied offensive that tried, as the title implies, to go a bit too far. Released in 1977, I loved this movie - but I probably wasn't aware of all of the reasons I loved it. Elliott Gould was definitely not one of the…

Unavailable Relationships

We all carry a certain amount of emotional baggage. Often that baggage impacts our relationships before they even start. How can that be? If you find yourself attracted to person after person who, it turns out, is emotionally or otherwise unavailable, then any "relationship" you believe you are engaged in is doomed from the start.…