Guns, Schools, and Selfishness

At a certain developmental stage, young children are appropriately concerned only about themselves and what they want. At that stage, that behavior is appropriate and we would be wrong (and ineffective) if we tried to hurry them out of that stage. We would interfere with their normal, healthy development, and they would suffer consequences at…

You Aren’t Defective

This post is the first in a series of occasional posts about the future of religion and spirituality in Western civilization. I have long been of the opinion that, before it is possible to build something healthy to replace something that is in the process of dying, it is important to clear up mistaken notions…

Why are my religious friends jerks?

It's a question I hear quite often. People will tell me that they like their "everyday" friends more than their spiritual or religious friends. They can easily relate to the former, but the latter - even for people with advanced formation in things spiritual - are hard to be around. They say or do things…

Spiritual Practice

So, you say you want to start a spiritual practice? You say that first you just need to read these books, attend this retreat, or sign up for this class? You're fooling yourself. You're also being fooled by the spiritual marketplace that has commodified spirituality and turned it into a cash cow. Want to start…

But he’s not up there anymore!

I can't tell you how many people, confronted with a crucifix or other image of the crucified Jesus, say to me, "...but he's not up there anymore!" Of course, part of the reason they are saying that is they can't deal with the idea that Jesus ever was "up there." It was a great problem…

What Really Matters…

I have spent a good part of my life studying spiritual belief systems and religious traditions, as well as psychology. As you might imagine, more has been said and written about these things than any one person could read in one lifetime. Even if a person did manage to read everything that might be read…

Spiritual Health

The truth is that healthy spirituality cannot exist outside psychological health. If our worldview is distorted and our coping mechanisms inadequate, our spirituality will become nothing more than another attempt to escape reality rather than a means to enter it fully.