Morality and Your Genitals

The Puritan streak that remains deeply embedded in American culture would have you believe that morality and your genitals are intimately connected. The resulting attitudes are perhaps among the most unhealthy ones possible. They lead us to see the physical as bad, as somehow distinct from the spiritual and the holy. This view has caused…

Our Intimacy Problem

The other day, someone jokingly said to me that they were sure my wife had already "paid" me many times for something. While this person didn't mean anything by their comment, they displayed western culture's problem with intimacy in one short sentence. The implication was that she has had sex with me (an interesting assumption…

Genitals

Nobody who is remembered for something they did with their genitals is remembered well. We seem to imagine that an orgasm will make us happy, but if that was true it would matter whether the orgasm was achieved when we were alone or in the middle of a Rolling Stones concert. The vast majority of…