Here's some great information from inlpcenter.org! https://inlpcenter.org/aha-process-self-sabotage/
Avoiding Self-Sabotage
If you are anything like me, you have experienced more than a few incidents of self-sabotage over the course of your life. At the time, you thought what you were doing was perfectly reasonable. You just wanted to think things through, develop a plan, avoid mistakes down the road, make sure you don't embarrass yourself,…