The Heart Will Never Love…

what the mind cannot accept. That's a paraphrase of retired Episcopal bishop John Shelby Spong. When I first heard the idea a few decades ago, I wasn't sure that I agreed with it. Now I know that I do agree with it wholeheartedly. Whenever I hear someone offer a nonsensical reason for a well understood…

Nobody will ever be able to supply the love and acceptance our parents failed to provide. We must heal ourselves. If we look to anything or anybody outside ourselves to love us into wholeness, we guarantee our ongoing misery.Craig Bergland

Pollyanna Western Christianity

I have noticed something about western Christianity lately. Across all perspectives, from conservative through moderate to progressive, there is an assumption that we all live and always have lived perfect lives. They act as if we are all the family from Leave it to Beaver or from Cosby. Parents are always wonderful, they are never…

Sticky, Messy Emotions

I used to joke that my family's northern European heritage meant that we greeted each other with a crisp salute at family gatherings. If we got really carried away, we would click our heels as we saluted, just as was depicted in those World War II movies about the German army. If only things had…

Holiday Reflections

My wife Erin and I were in a fairly significant car accident Friday night when a pickup truck ran a red light. While we are banged up pretty well, we are alive - and that's generally not something you think much about less than a week before the holidays. Ironically, the day before that I…

Rationalism, Logic, and Reality

Many people believe that everything can be explained. I reject that idea. I am willing to accept that all mechanical processes can ultimately be explained - but how much of life is mechanical? Is love mechanical? Is childbirth mechanical? Is death mechanical? Is the feeling we experience at a great concert mechanical? The current tendency…