Sex Secret

I don't think women do this, but I could be wrong. Women hardly ever invite me to eavesdrop on their conversations about sex. Dammit. Some men do this, however, and it's them I would like to discuss today. You women can listen in, I don't mind. There are two versions of this practice that break…

Holiday Reflections

My wife Erin and I were in a fairly significant car accident Friday night when a pickup truck ran a red light. While we are banged up pretty well, we are alive - and that's generally not something you think much about less than a week before the holidays. Ironically, the day before that I…

Guns, Schools, and Selfishness

At a certain developmental stage, young children are appropriately concerned only about themselves and what they want. At that stage, that behavior is appropriate and we would be wrong (and ineffective) if we tried to hurry them out of that stage. We would interfere with their normal, healthy development, and they would suffer consequences at…

Debating Integrity

When I was a kid, which I must now confess was a few decades ago, We were taught things like debate, argumentation, and persuasive writing. Those things have gradually disappeared from schools in America, and the result is plain to see. Quite simply, we no longer know how to construct an argument and we no…

Honesty is Such a Lonely Word

Billy Joel was right, not only about love but also about spiritual and religious circles - though he may not have had that in mind when he wrote his song. There is a practice that I have seen both in Newage* circles and in Evangelical circles of blatant dishonesty about the ideas and even the…

What Price Awakening?

One of the biggest problems we in the west have is a profound lack of altruism, and our spiritual communities and traditions are no exception. I laughed a few weeks ago when I received an email from a nationally known group that holds initiation rituals for men. Citing the truth that we have lost much…