Silence

...may not be what you think it is! I recently heard a self-declared expert on contemplative silence saying that it can be hard to find silence in nature because animals and insects make noises. As I screamed "no!" at my podcast player, it occurred to me that there may be more confusion on this issue…

Nobody will ever be able to supply the love and acceptance our parents failed to provide. We must heal ourselves. If we look to anything or anybody outside ourselves to love us into wholeness, we guarantee our ongoing misery.Craig Bergland

It’s Not About Guns

In light of the King Soopers shooting in Boulder, Colorado, the same tired old discussions are starting anew. At least Congress is starting to be honest and some are admitting they oppose gun control because they fear it would make it difficult when reelection time rolls around. Reflect on that statement for just a moment.…

White Male Spirituality?

Let's be honest. Nobody cares. Nobody really wants to provide spirituality services to heterosexual white males. In fact, I would go so far as to say that, while white males dominate spiritual leadership, they are among the most under served spiritual consumers. Think about it for just a moment. We regularly see advertisements for every…

What does “good enough” mean?

Most of us hear the expression "good enough" as rather negative. We tend to associate it with not being good enough. We hear the expression in almost every corner of our lives. We can be "not good enough" to get the job we want, the relationship we crave, to win a competition we are in,…

You Can’t Do It That Way!

How often do we hear that from academics, especially in the field of spirituality and religion? I have heard it so often I want to vomit every time yet another insecure academic trying to justify their professional existence announces what does and does not constitute "proper" spiritual practice. Whatever currently popular spiritual trend catches their…

Faith and Obligation?

If something is an obligation, is doing it really faith or rather fear of punishment? Those of us raised in small-c catholic traditions may recall the idea of holy days of obligation. These were days wherein church attendance was considered mandatory, and failure to attend was considered sin unless you had an officially sanctioned reason…

Raise Your Hand if You Don’t Have a Body!

It seems like a silly title, doesn't it? Despite that, to one degree or another, most spirituality and religion has encouraged adherents to deny that they are embodied and refuse to acknowledge the needs that come with embodiment. Whether it's fasting, sleep deprivation, celibacy, dietary restrictions, self-inflicted abuse of different kinds, human sacrifice, or any…

Experiences in Meditation

I recently received a question about experiences in meditation. I am reproducing in part my response here on the blog because I feel many people have a similar question. The experiences you are having are sometimes called "consolations." I tend to think of them as glimpses of awakening. Everything seems to make sense in those…