Why “Working on Myself” Isn’t Enough

Meditation in all of its various forms is great. I am a practitioner myself and can attest it has brought wonderful change to my life. Mindfulness meditation has seen a surge in popularity in recent years, and I would recent stay at home orders in some communities have afforded a wonderful opportunity to start or…

Cabin Fever?

One of the things I find fascinating about the experience of safer at home during the last several weeks is the number of people who are struggling with perceived isolation. I don't refer here to people who live alone and cannot go to work. I refer to the rest of us. We have social contact.…

Overheard in Detention

My wife and I share a car these days, and when I get to her office early to pick her up I sit in a little vending room on the first floor and write. I let her know I am there by sending her a graphic that indicates I am in detention. Some of the…

Places That Frighten Us

When I was a freshman in college I worked at Marshall Field's here in Milwaukee. It was a department store chain based in Chicago. I heard stories from my managers about the main store in Chicago on State Street. The store had a basement, a floor that in many old school department stores held what…

Gross Psychic Weight

You may have noticed that commercial trucks often have weights listed on the cab of the truck that indicate how much weight the vehicle can safely bear. Those numbers are there to help eliminate the safety risks inherent in driving an overloaded vehicle. They always remind me of the day we put an old refrigerator…

A Small Life

I had a conversation with someone the other day about the fact that they got a snowplow to come plow the driveway after about an inch and a half of light, fluffy snow had fallen, She said, "we're lazy, so we had a friend come and plow the driveway." I responded that I didn't think…

Sex Secret

I don't think women do this, but I could be wrong. Women hardly ever invite me to eavesdrop on their conversations about sex. Dammit. Some men do this, however, and it's them I would like to discuss today. You women can listen in, I don't mind. There are two versions of this practice that break…

Give yourself credit

Sometimes I read articles or blog posts filled with references to what this or that authority figure has said about the topic at hand, and then the post ends. I suppose the opinions of authority figures can be interesting, but they can also be awful. There's nothing about being relatively well known that automatically confers…

What the Neighbors Think

I suspect there are more of us out there than we might expect who grew up with parents who had one level or another of preoccupation with what the neighbors might think. There are any number of reasons that happens. None of them are legitimate. Whatever the real reason for neighborly preoccupation was - narcissism,…