Breasts

Women have breasts. Bartam Trail High School in Florida apparently is either surprised by that fact or believes that students haven't discovered it yet. They feel compelled to keep breasts under wraps, and so have edited eighty yearbook photos to remove all traces of cleavage. I would hasten that no boy's picture was edited for…

Enough with your butt!

For quite a while I have noticed a disturbing social media trend, especially among younger women. They post pictures of themselves looking away from the camera so you can see their (at times freakishly large) butts. Much of the time they are at least looking over their shoulder at the camera, but sometimes they don't.…

The Fall of Jerry Falwell, Jr.

Many may be tempted to see the fall of Jerry Falwell, Jr. to be a tragic, isolated incident of one man gone astray. It's anything but. This isn't about Jerry sitting in the corner 'observing" while the pool boy cum business partner frolics on the bed with Jerry's wife. (As an aside, since these religious…

Morality and Your Genitals

The Puritan streak that remains deeply embedded in American culture would have you believe that morality and your genitals are intimately connected. The resulting attitudes are perhaps among the most unhealthy ones possible. They lead us to see the physical as bad, as somehow distinct from the spiritual and the holy. This view has caused…

Pedestals, Perfection, and Disappointment

I read an article the other day that reported the late Jean Vanier, founder of L'Arche International communities for the cognitively disabled, has been accused by five adult women of sexual misconduct in that he had what they describe as coercive sexual relationships. Prior to these revelations, he was considered a solid candidate for sainthood.…

How Do I Justify My Presence?

I came across a very interesting thread on Facebook over the weekend, and really feel compelled to respond to it in a longer form than is possible in a Facebook discussion. Here is the product! To paraphrase the question raised, "how does a transgender man preaching in conservative Indiana justify his presence in the pulpit…

Sex Secret

I don't think women do this, but I could be wrong. Women hardly ever invite me to eavesdrop on their conversations about sex. Dammit. Some men do this, however, and it's them I would like to discuss today. You women can listen in, I don't mind. There are two versions of this practice that break…

Holding Hands?

God help me, if you told me years ago that I would ever write anything about Justin Timberlake, I would have been forced to surrender my man card. I'm still coming to terms with it as I write this post. For the sake of this discusison, which is an important one, I am going to…

Asexual Dating

There is an article currently on Huffington Post that details the dating difficulties of a person who identifies as asexual. I mention it because the issue can be generalized to a number of relationship questions. The author of the article was bemoaning the fact that, while there are asexual dating sites, they aren't very well…