Our Histories are Cyclic

Western culture tends to believe that history is linear. In truth, at least as far as our personal histories are concerned, it's more accurate to believe they are circular. We keep returning to the scene of our trauma by recreating it with a new cast of characters and hoping it will turn out differently this…

Becoming Well Informed

Irony of ironies, now that I have more time for social media, I find that I struggle to tolerate it. With people having more time to post, and posting a lot about the current pandemic, their ignorance is coming to the fore. I find this to be especially true about millennials, and it has nothing…

Pedestals, Perfection, and Disappointment

I read an article the other day that reported the late Jean Vanier, founder of L'Arche International communities for the cognitively disabled, has been accused by five adult women of sexual misconduct in that he had what they describe as coercive sexual relationships. Prior to these revelations, he was considered a solid candidate for sainthood.…

Pet Rabbits?

From the Huffington Post: REP. DUNCAN HUNTER RESIGNS AFTER GUILTY PLEA¬† Duncan Hunter has submitted his resignation, about a month after pleading guilty to federal charges. The Californian Republican and his wife, Margaret Hunter, were indicted for misappropriating $250,000 in campaign donations for personal use, including luxurious family vacations, private school tuition, and airfare for…

How Do I Justify My Presence?

I came across a very interesting thread on Facebook over the weekend, and really feel compelled to respond to it in a longer form than is possible in a Facebook discussion. Here is the product! To paraphrase the question raised, "how does a transgender man preaching in conservative Indiana justify his presence in the pulpit…

Sex Secret

I don't think women do this, but I could be wrong. Women hardly ever invite me to eavesdrop on their conversations about sex. Dammit. Some men do this, however, and it's them I would like to discuss today. You women can listen in, I don't mind. There are two versions of this practice that break…

You should know…

You should know that you will meet many people who will purport to be your friend for precisely as long as it is to their advantage. The moment you do something they don't like, they will disappear. They were never a friend. True friendship weathers disagreement.

Holding Hands?

God help me, if you told me years ago that I would ever write anything about Justin Timberlake, I would have been forced to surrender my man card. I'm still coming to terms with it as I write this post. For the sake of this discusison, which is an important one, I am going to…

Holiday Reflections

My wife Erin and I were in a fairly significant car accident Friday night when a pickup truck ran a red light. While we are banged up pretty well, we are alive - and that's generally not something you think much about less than a week before the holidays. Ironically, the day before that I…