How we go out matters. The last thing we do in life actually happens after we are gone, when the will is read. For most of us, it's our only postmortem message to the world. Many people seem to think that their will is their last chance to shit on people, to let them know…
Nothing is Ruined or Lost
I have been seeing articles lately, mostly aimed at millennials, declaring that this summer or this year is lost. I confess that I am mystified by this feeling, though I am not unfamiliar with it. In fact, I hear similar things from my thirty something daughter all the time. The summer is lost because the…
Sometimes, the pain…
Sometimes, the pain - whether physical, emotional, or psychological - is too much. Despite all of our best intentions and determination, the thought of moving forward is overwhelming. We have listened to doctors, therapists, teachers, and gurus who have all told us that we must press on, but in this moment we feel absolutely exhausted…
Not Going Away
Many people have one or more chronic concerns. These may be things from their personal or health history, newly arisen medical issues, or simply things they worry about. If I had a nickel for every person who described themselves to me as a "worrier," I'd have a lot of nickels. Other people believe that if…
Going to Hell in a Handbasket
Every generation seems to feel compelled to say the next generation is doing everything wrong and the world is going to hell in a handbasket. Despite that, the world goes on. If we examine things objectively, we see that what changes are the circumstances and details, not the outcomes. The world moves along and new…
Trauma and A Bridge Too Far
A Bridge Too Far is a World War II movie about an Allied offensive that tried, as the title implies, to go a bit too far. Released in 1977, I loved this movie - but I probably wasn't aware of all of the reasons I loved it. Elliott Gould was definitely not one of the…
A Reminder from your Mother
It is, in fact, all fun and games until someone loses an eye. On the other hand, you don't see a lot of one-eyed non-pirates running around, so you're probably good. Moms can be such a buzz-kill. If we take a good look at ourselves and are honest about it, there may be a number…
Busy?
Do you find that you never seem to have much, or any, down time? Are you involved in so many activities that it's hard to keep track of them all? Do you sometimes double-book activities and discover you are supposed to be two places at once? More importantly, what do you do when you have…
Craig Bergland 