Why, when people tell us their truth, is our first reaction to deny it? Why even when that truth is uncomfortable to reveal, like someone admitting their family isn’t all the world has cracked it up to be, do we still deny it? Who in the world do we think we are to go around shitting on people with impunity? The reason we do all of this is that we realize we are pretty inconsequential in the great scheme of things. We say, “I don’t amount to much, so I am going to do my best to make sure you don’t amount to much, either.”
What a miserable existence.
Somewhere along the way we have come to believe that making your life as miserable as mine is equivalent to me improving my life. The problem is that it isn’t. My father, an addict who abandoned his biological children and didn’t honor his obligations to them while acquiring wealth for himself, frequently criticized women who became pregnant while not married or who had biracial children. From what pinnacle of virtue he made those proclamations I am not sure, because his own morality and courage were plainly missing in action. My mother, another addict with profound mental illness on top of it, actually counseled me to abort my first born because she didn’t like the child’s mother. She, too, was critical of everyone and everything while being completely blind to her own misconduct. Can we see a pattern?
When it comes to Harry and Meghan, the reaction of the public to their interview does nothing but prove their point. Every “expert” who weighs in – whether or not they are self-proclaimed “experts” – really doesn’t know what the real issues were inside that highly dysfunctional Royal mess. Their opinions aren’t worth the oxygen they consume, and neither is the public that can’t get enough of them. We all need to get our own houses in order before we go poking our noses, and opinions, into other people’s houses. Attempting to live vicariously through the lives of celebrities is no life at all. The biggest problem with it is that while reveling in nonsense you have no time to make changes in the only place they will be effective, a little reality-based place called your own real life. Most of us could stand to give it a try.